I Always Wanted To Be A Dad: Men Without Children by Robert Nurden

Many men would love to be a father, but what happens when their dream doesn’t work out? The unexpected loss experienced by men who do not become dads, for whatever reason, remains largely unacknowledged by society. In this ground-breaking and no-holds-barred exploration, the journalist Robert Nurden goes on a journey through his own hurt and regret, unravelling the complexities of life as a childless-not-by-choice man. Robert’s story is accompanied by a series of remarkable testimonies from other childless men who add their powerful voices to his, creating a sense of belonging and community. At once hard-hitting, humorous and vulnerable, I Always Wanted To Be A Dad shines a much-needed light on men without children. With this invaluable book, Robert ultimately uncovers the hope that is discovered in acceptance, and the realisation that a rich and fulfilling life can still lie in wait.

I love this book. With breath-taking honesty and eloquence, Robert Nurden has articulated the life and times of a man who is childless not by choice. Some people say it’s (still) a man’s world – but this book is a powerful reminder that in terms of fertility and parenthood, women have largely dominated the discourse. It’s time for men to be heard and the highest praise I can give this brave and brilliant book is that Robert made me want to lean forward and listen.

Jessica Hepburn, author of 21 Miles and The Pursuit of Motherhood